I’ve bebopped around confidently today in a crop top, comfy pants and bright green eyeshadow while absorbing stares and silent judgements as I went through my errands. As I sat conversing with strangers in a tea shop the conversation turned towards boudoir and body image when one of them exclaimed, I’ve always wanted to do that BUT…..
That BUT is where I full stop! Until you learn to love yourself right where you are at in this very moment you will always be searching for a content and joy that will prove to be insatiable and will rob you at every stage of life’s journey.
We ALL struggle at times with body image or overall insecurities. For instance, I use to struggle with having little boobs, one day I sat in front of mirror and came to the realization that that insecurity did not belong to me. Society had pushed this image of what was beautiful or “desirable” and that the shell of a body I possessed is merely that and not tied to my worth or desirability. The shell will age. The soul is what is beautiful and what matters and I feel like I’ve put in the work on mine.
It doesn’t matter what type of figure you have, if you convince yourself that IF or WHEN you look like XYZ then you’ll be happy, you never will be. You will always be stuck chasing the carrot.
It’s also ok to love yourself where you’re at while also still aspiring for change, if that change is truly your own. Instead of saying I want to lose “X” pounds, or look like this, try saying I want to be healthy for me. Healthy is broad and doesn’t look the same for everybody.
In order to love yourself exactly where you’re at, you have to get real with yourself and ask, where is this source of insecurity coming from? Am I wanting to change it for myself? Or for the societal image of what I’m “supposed to be”?
My challenge today for this random stranger was to love herself in this stage at this very moment, not when she loses 20 more pounds because what if that never happens? What if the version of yourself that you’ve fantasized about never comes to fruition and all you’ve ever done is berate yourself and make yourself feel bad for not meeting this arbitrary expectation?
Book the session, wear the crop top, find your confidence and LOVE YOURSELF WHERE YOU ARE AT!
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